"You should have the first bite."
cafe date!!

requested by rimiriin~!!

Yap: I NEED THE TOKEN ALREADY!!

QnA section:


Thank you!!! And yes I do!!

First of all, I appreciate you asking whether I'm okay, too. That's genuinely very sweet of you. I myself am somewhat struggling with my mental health, but it's no biggie!!

As for your question, I want to start by saying that I'm sorry things have been so inconsistent for you lately. I obviously don't know the specifics of what you're going through, but I can imagine how exhausting it must be to never quite know where you'll find yourself emotionally from one day to the next.

I do have a few things I'd like to tell you, though.

1. Please don't treat your good days as the standard you have to maintain.

I think one of the most frustrating things about struggling with your mental health can be having a genuinely good day, only to feel awful again afterwards. It can make you feel like you've somehow lost all the progress you made.

But you haven't. A difficult day doesn't erase a good one, and having a setback doesn't mean you're back at square one. You don't have to be consistently happy to be making progress.

2. Try to establish little things you can fall back on.

I'm not talking about some elaborate productivity routine or completely reinventing your lifestyle. Sometimes it's as simple as having something to look forward to, listening to music you enjoy, spending time on a hobby, getting some fresh air, or having a familiar activity that gives your day a little structure.

And please don't turn these things into obligations, either. They're supposed to help you, not become another list of things you feel guilty about not accomplishing.

3. Don't isolate yourself with everything you're experiencing.

I know opening up can be difficult, especially when you don't necessarily understand your own feelings well enough to explain them. But you don't need to have everything figured out before you're allowed to ask someone for support.

If you have someone you trust, whether that's a friend, family member, or another person you're comfortable with, please consider talking to them. And if these fluctuations are affecting your everyday life, I'd genuinely encourage you to reach out to a mental health professional, too. You deserve support beyond having to figure everything out by yourself.

4. Stop measuring your worth by how well you're doing.

You are not more deserving of kindness when you're productive, cheerful, sociable, or otherwise doing well. You deserve those things on the days when getting through your usual routine feels considerably harder, too.

You don't have to constantly justify your existence through achievements or prove that you're doing better than you were yesterday.

5. Give yourself permission to be a person, not a constant work in progress.

I think this is particularly important. There's a difference between wanting to improve your circumstances and treating yourself like a project that needs to be fixed.

You're allowed to have fun. You're allowed to rest. You're allowed to have days where you don't accomplish anything particularly meaningful. Your life doesn't have to revolve around recovering, improving, or becoming some supposedly better version of yourself.

And lastly, I want to remind you that you don't have to navigate all of this alone. If things ever become overwhelming, please reach out to someone you trust rather than feeling like you have to endure everything in silence.

I don't know exactly what your circumstances look like, anon, but I genuinely hope things become a little easier for you. You deserve some stability, some peace, and plenty of reasons to look forward to tomorrow.

And thank you for asking me this, genuinely. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to bring it up here. Please take care of yourself, alright? You matter, even on the days when it's difficult to feel that way.


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